FAMILY ISSUES (1F-5)

Communication 

Recognizing Roadblocks 

Teacher Notes 

The object is to teach students that how we speak to people either opens up communication or puts up roadblocks. 

When we speak to people we send meanings behind our messages. If we ask a question or make a statement that sends a negative message, chances are we won't get a positive response. 

The following are categories used to distinguish the meaning behind the message. Have students learn these categories then do the corresponding assignment. 

   1. Judging: to decide the worth of, or place a value on something; something is better than another. 

   2. Ordering: to demand; not giving the person a choice to behave. People who have the opportunity to choose usually choose the right way. 

   3. Moralizing: trying to point out what is wrong by attaching guilt feeling to the behavior, trying to make someone do something by making them feel guilty if they don't do it. For example, "eat all your food because there are people starving in      the world." 

   4. Ridiculing: making fun of; making a person feel foolish. 

   5. Knowing-it-All. "Solving the problem": Solving the problem with a quick fix, regardless of what the other feels, thinks,     believes. 

KEY TO THE CORRESPONDING ASSIGNMENT 

     Category                                Question Numbers 

     Judging                                  1, 3, 4 
     Ordering                                2, 6, 10 
     Moralizing                              9 
     Ridiculing                               7, 8. 13 
     Know-it-All                           5, 11, 12